Mary Lu Lander

August 7, 2020

Mary Lu Lander, 79, died peacefully on August 7th 2020 after a long battle with Alzheimer’s Disease. She was under the loving care of staff at Plantation Estates in Matthews, NC.

Mary Lu was born February 26, 1941 in Lincolnton, NC. She grew up in Charlotte NC and attended Converse College in Spartanburg, SC. Afterwards she pursued a career in Information Systems Development, working for Burroughs/Unisys Corporation for twenty four years. Mary Lu then spent six years in Orlando, FL at Dynamic Healthcare Technologies; she loved her Florida home and always welcomed family and friends for visits. After a short time in McKinney, TX she moved back to Charlotte to be closer to family. She enjoyed her retirement years at Sun City in Fort Mill, SC.

Mary Lu was preceded in death by her parents William Samuel Lander and Buna Lineberger Lander, her brother, William Samuel Lander, Jr. and sisters Barbara Lander Willis and Harriet Lander Baucom. She is survived by two nieces, Susan Fowler and Ann Keever, nephews Jim Willis, Buddy Baucom (wife Vickie), and Jeff Lander, cousin Andrea Denton and several great nieces and nephews.

All those who knew Mary Lu saw a lively and fun person…her dedication to her jobs, her determined spirit, a love for entertaining, doing artwork, spending time with her dogs and enjoying her house at Sunset Beach all gave her a zest for life that friends and family loved to share with her.

A graveside service and celebration of life will be held on Thursday, August 27th at 11:00 a.m. at Forest Lawn West Cemetery.

In lieu of flowers, memorials can be made to Charlotte Neuroscience Foundation,
300 Billingsley Road, Suite 108, Charlotte, NC 28211, or the charity of your choice.

Arrangements are in the care of Kenneth W Poe Funeral & Cremation Service, 1321 Berkeley Ave., Charlotte, NC 28204; (704) 641-7606. Online condolences can be shared at

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  • Sybil Havner

    My dear sweet friend Mary Lu. We miss you so much. We miss the laughter, smiles and companionship. We miss the trips to the dog show, and hanging out with all our Cocker Spaniel loving friends. You have been a wonderful, caring friend. I’m counting on seeing you again when we all make it home.
    Love you,
    Sybil Havner

  • Jeanette and bill BECK

    Aunt Mary Lu was always there when you needed her most. I only wish I could have done for her as much as she gave. We will miss her very much.

  • John Hallman

    Mary Lu was a great person. She was a wonderful manager to the many people who worked for her over the years. She will be missed,

  • Steve Weaver, DVM

    I had the pleasure of being Mary Lu’s veterinarian for many years. She was a friendly, elegant woman and I always looked forward to seeing her. We loved discussing her dogs, art, and gardening. A good friend of mine from church, Russ Nelson, had done some work for Mary Lu, as well as many others in her development, do we started out with common friends.
    I retired three years ago, and while I knew Mary Lu was having some cognitive issues, I did not realize it was Alzheimer’s. I lost my Mom to this disease two years ago, so I have some familiarity with the challenges Mary Lou and her family have faced, especially the wide ranges of emotion this disease causes us to go through.
    I have many warm memories of Mary Lou and I hope you will be able to focus on her beauty as a person rather than the illness she dealt with.
    Sincerely, Steve Weaver