Betty Adams Jones

March 9, 2020

CHARLOTTE – Betty Jones, a resident of Charlotte for the last eight years, graduated to heaven on March 9, 2020, after a short illness.

Betty was born in Dothan, Alabama, the youngest daughter of James Odell and Lutie Adams’ four children. Betty attended Columbia Bible College in Columbia, South Carolina, and graduated from Texas Christian University in Fort Worth, Texas. She also attended Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary in Fort Worth, Texas.

On June 28, 1949, she married the Reverend Neal Jones, who says he was drawn instantly to her beauty, deep Southern accent and charm.

Betty’s career as a Real Estate Professional in Northern Virginia was filled with many awards and honors over the course of 30 years. Her uncanny knack for matching people with homes contributed to her success as a business professional in the competitive real estate market of suburban Washington.

Betty also had a career as the wife of a pastor and, with her gift of hospitality, she was instrumental in turning congregations into communities. Kind and gracious, congregants sought her counsel and guidance. Betty and Neal spent 70 years sharing God’s love at nearly a dozen churches across Texas and Virginia. Everyone who knew them, knew they were inseparable, and both were beloved. Each time Neal heard God calling him to a new church, congregants would tell him, “We’re sorry you’re leaving, but can you leave your wife here?”

As a mother and grandmother (aka “Guysie” to the grandkids), she was deeply loved. The Jones house was the one all the neighborhood kids flocked to. But she had rules.The four children weren’t allowed in the living room unless it was to practice piano, with shoes off, of course. Sundays in the Jones home were rich in tradition: Church, Betty’s roast, rice and gravy, watching football and dozing off, until it was time for evening worship.

On her last day, her family and loved ones, including Mr. Snuggles (her rescue dog) gathered around her bed at The Cypress of Charlotte, where she lived with her husband, Rev Neal Jones. In the final moments as the Lord called her home, two of her granddaughters held each of Guysie’s hands and sang Softly and Tenderly. She was 94.

Could there be a legacy greater than this? Betty Jones gave a lifetime of love to a world in need. And she saved enough love for her husband and their family, until, as her granddaughters sang at the bedside, it was time for the weary to come home.

Betty is survived by her husband, Neal Thomas Jones; four children – Neal T. Jones Jr. and his wife, Virginia “Ginny”, of Austin, Texas., Elizabeth “Betsy” McElmurray and her husband, Stephen, of Louisville, Kentucky., Jeffery Jones and his wife, Candyce “Candy”, of Austin, Texas., and Caroline Ford and her husband, Kevin, of Charlotte; 13 grandchildren; and seven great-grandchildren.

A gift in Betty’s memory can be made to the Neal and Betty Jones Mentoring Fund at Leighton Ford Ministries, 4029 Dove’s Roost Court, Charlotte, N.C. 28211 or a charity of your choice.

The family is grateful for the love and care shown by Dr. Lisa Nanovic, Hospice & Palliative Care Charlotte Region, and the caring staff of Stewart Center and every team member at The Cypress.

Visitation and a service to celebrate her life is pending the duration and outcome of the coronavirus and its impact on travel and accommodations. Her husband, Neal Jones, plans to preside at her memorial service.

Arrangements are in the care of Kenneth W. Poe Funeral & Cremation Service, 1321 Berkeley Ave., Charlotte, N.C. 28204; (704) 641-7606. Online condolences can be shared at

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  • Judi Thompson

    Neal and Betty often spent Sunday afternoons at my parents home so neal could rest. No cell phones then. Happy memories with them and their children. I know she will be forever missed.

  • Marguerite Downs

    What wonderful memories I have of precious Betty and of Our great pastor, Neal! She and Dottie Wierick came to my home to invite me to Shiloh Terrace! That visit was enough for me to know God was leading my family there! What blessed years we enjoyed there with Betty and Neal! My prayers for you , Neal and all the family!

  • Russell Floyd

    Greetings Neal,

    I offer my belated condolences as I just learned of Betty's passing, your inseparable partner in life. I pray these days of grief are met with unexpected grace.

    I am the son of Walter and Ruth Floyd, from Shiloh Terrace. You graciously cared for my mom at my father's premature death on the day one of your children was born. I recently sat at the table with Jeff and Candy and reconnected our shared experiences as children at Shiloh Terrace. I am completing my 39th year in ministry and serve as the Sr. Pastor of First United Methodist in Pflugerville. I have always felt my call to ministry is rooted in the great pastors of my childhood. You are among that clan, thank you.

    Our paths may not cross, but our spirits are one. So, I grieve and pray for you during these days.

    Shalom friend....

    Russell Floyd

  • Mary Coleman Adams Hudson

    Dear Aunt Betty was such a beautiful, lovely lady. It was always wonderful to be with Aunt Betty and Uncle Neal over the years. The two of them had a special relationship. I’m glad they had so many great years together!
    My love to the entire family,
    Mary Coleman

  • Dick & Doris Lee

    This very gracious southern lady with the charming accent, and her husband, Neal, have been close friends since l964. We first met at FBC of Vernon, TX when our Pastor Search Committee from Shiloh Terrace Baptist in Dallas visited to hear Neal preach in view of a call as Pastor of STBC. He accepted our call for which we have always been grateful. The congregation loved Neal, but we REALLY loved Betty. She was a warm and loving, and very charming, Pastor's wife, and was a great asset to Neal. For more than 55 years we have maintained a close friendship, in spite of the miles that separated us. We pray for Neal and the family during this time of natural grief, but we rejoice with them knowing we will see Betty again in Heaven. May His perfect peace and grace uphold you all.