Michael Joseph Henderlite

January 27, 2022

CHARLOTTE- Michael Joseph Henderlite passed away on Thursday, January 27, 2022.  He was born on March 10, 1979, in Saint Louis, MO to Jim and Patty Henderlite. The family relocated to Charlotte, NC in 1981.

Known as Mike to many of his friends, Michael grew up in Charlotte where he graduated from East Mecklenburg High school in 1997.  During these years, Michael was active in Scouting, ascending to the rank of Eagle. He was also active in the youth group at Myers Park Baptist Church.  He cultivated his love of music in the school band where he made lifetime friendships as a three-year member of the East Meck Marching Eagles. Michael also performed live as a guitarist with his friends in the band Idiosyncrasy.

After high school, Michael attended Appalachian State University where he received a Bachelor of Arts degree in Music Industry.  He graduated in 2001 and went on to continue his education at the Conservatory of Recording Arts and Sciences in Tempe, AZ where he attained multiple certifications in digital sound recording.

As a professional, Michael worked in the recording industry in Los Angeles for several years before moving back to the Charlotte area.  He continued his career in sound engineering, working in the public sector. Michael also had his own audio production business which allowed him to become a part of the music scene in Charlotte.

Michael will be remembered for his kindness and genuine personality.  He was always the easiest to spot, usually the tallest in the room, but he was known as one of the gentlest people you could meet.  He inherited a love of technology and general gadgetry from his father, and he has passed this on to his son.  Michael and his wife Shawana built a loving relationship and family based on a strong bond and a warm home for their two children.

Michael is survived by his wife, Shawana; his son, Ashton and stepdaughter, Amya; parents, Jim and Patty; brother, Aaron and his wife, Tara and nephews, Owen and Brady and niece, Meghan.  He is also survived by his aunts and uncles, Mary Beth Boone and her husband, Bob Williams, Charles Boone and his wife, Anne, Susie Ladley and her husband, Jack; cousins, Ben Boone and his wife, Amy, Suzanne Lovitz, Elizabeth Ladley and Jeanette Ladley.

A memorial service will be held at 2:00 PM on Saturday, February 19, 2022 at Myers Park Baptist Church in Charlotte. Masks will be required for those in attendance.  The service will be livestreamed at https://vimeo.com/673238435 for those unable to attend in person. The livestream will begin at 1:45 PM and will be archived for later viewing.

In lieu of flowers, memorials may be offered in memory of Michael to American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, 199 Water Street, 11th Floor, New York, NY 10038.

Arrangements are in the care of Kenneth W. Poe Funeral & Cremation Service, 1321 Berkeley Ave., Charlotte, NC; 28204 (704) 641-7606. Online condolences can be shared at www.kennethpoeservices.com.

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  • Fred Dunlap III

    Mike was a big part of me getting into the Charlotte musician's network when I first moved here. I played in the band QC Soulution for about a year. That unit people led to so many relationships and events thathelped p me navigate to where I am now. In addition, we reconnected later years where he would be the sound engineer for one of the projects I was playing for. It was always a joy to be around Mike, and he always had a joke ready at any moment to lighten up the mood. I will miss you brother, keep the bass fat and funky up there.

  • Stephen Gester

    Jim and Patty, I am very sorry for your loss and share your sorrow. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Love, Stephen

  • Tom & Diana Gester

    Jim and Patty, We are so sorry for your loss. We never had the chance to meet Michael in person but knew how much you loved him his family by the pictures and stories you shared with us during our trip to Alaska with you. While we read about how prevalent depression and other mental health issues are in our society, it really hits home when it affects those who are close to you. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. Love, Tom & Diana.

  • Joey Barker

    I am so sorry to learn of Michael's passing. I will be keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers. Michael's ability to bring laughter to a room full of people with his larger-than-life voice will truly be missed.

  • Saliyl Muhammad

    My sincere condolences and prayers to all his family, and love ones. He was truly one of the coolest easily, he will truly be missed.

  • Patrick Mizzell

    In 1989 I was the new kid in school. Mike was my first friend at First Ward Elementary. 30+ years later, I can still remember how happy I was to simply have a friend and to not feel like the new kid. We didn’t remain close after elementary school but graduated high school together. I hope Mike knew that I to this day still call him my friend. Thoughts and prayers go out to his family.

  • Catharine Place

    I played in the HS band with Michael, very talented musician and always smiling. Wonderful person and friend. Sending thoughts and prayers to the whole family.

  • Steve and Araminta Johnston

    We are so sorry for your sad, sad loss. Prayers for all of you and may Michael's soul rest in peace.

  • Barbara Syracuse

    Patty I am so saddened to read about your son Michael’s passing. You always spoke so fondly of him at our Y classes. My sincere condolences to you and your family. May God bless and keep you through this most difficult time.

  • Deana Reel

    I didn't know Michael but his wife Shawana is such a light to so many. I am grieved at his passing and pray for comfort for his family.

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