Henry Gray Caldwell

January 8, 2022


CHARLOTTE – Henry Gray Caldwell, deeply loved son and baby brother, passed away unexpectedly in his sleep in the early morning of Saturday, January 8, 2022.  He was not quite 1-and-a-half years old.

Henry was born in Charlotte on July 25, 2020, and was the absolute, unequivocal best of us.  Born smack dab in the middle of a global pandemic, he very well may have been the happiest baby we’ve ever met.  He loved chocolate chip waffles, making animal noises – you should’ve heard his dog, it was incredible – and teasing with his big sister, Mary Carol (5).  Henry loved waving bye-bye and blowing a kiss when it was time to leave somewhere, even when it was simply time to go to bed.  He loved coloring, and climbing, and faceplanting onto couch pillows, and countless other things that we now won’t be able to see blossom in the years ahead.  Most of all, Henry loved his family, and his family loved him back with a fierceness that we can feel now, sharply.  This loss has left a hole that will never be filled. He was just starting to walk and talk, and it is incredibly unfair that the world will not get to see all that Henry Gray Caldwell had to offer, but he packed a heck of a lot into his 17-and-a-half months.

Henry is survived by his parents, Gray and Abigail Caldwell, who feel so incredibly lucky and proud to have been his parents; his unbelievably caring big sister, Mary Carol; grandparents, Julie and Stoke Caldwell and Ann and Rob Hecker; cousins, Julia and Margaret Harnett; aunt Lauren Harnett and uncles, Jacob Hecker and Max Harnett.  He is also survived by many great aunts, great uncles, cousins of all sorts and dear friends, all of whom loved him to the moon and back.

What a light Henry Gray brought to this world, and we will spend the rest of our lives making sure it is never extinguished. We love you, baby boy.

A memorial service will be held at 2:00 PM on Friday, January 14, 2022 at First Presbyterian Church, 200 W. Trade Street in Charlotte.  The service will be livestreamed at www.firstpres-charlotte.org/live for those unable to attend in person.  Masks are required for those in attendance.

In lieu of flowers, memorials may be offered in memory of Henry to the Child Development Center at First Presbyterian Church or a charity of one’s choice.

Arrangements are in the care of Kenneth W. Poe Funeral & Cremation Service, 1321 Berkeley Ave., Charlotte, NC 28204; (704) 641-7606. Online condolences may be shared at www.kennethpoeservices.com.

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  • Donna Jackman

    Abbie and family~ I’m sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine how heartbreaking this is. Sending prayers, and much love, Mrs.Jackman

  • David Bailey

    I wept when I read Henry’s obituary. I cannot fathom how deep his family is grieving. I am so sorry for your loss.

  • Alisha Rashidi & Gregory Lewis

    Gray and Abbie, we are so deeply sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers to you and your family at this time.

  • Mary Verkuilen

    My most heartfelt condolences to your family on the loss of your beautiful Henry! He was such a bright light - he packed so much heart, joy and brightness into his brief time here that it will last a lifetime in the hearts and memories of all those who knew him. May you find great comfort in those memories!

  • Jen Johnson

    Gray and Abbie, Truly a beautiful service today, honoring a beautiful life. A pray you feel all the love surrounding you today and always.

  • Barbara Cook

    Sweet baby in heaven, our hearts are broken here below. The angels delight in you and we look forward to meeting you in heaven. We pray for your blessed family who will forever love and cherish you.. Please send your precious hugs to them now when they need them the most. May God find great joy in you and your family. Hugs to the family.

  • Ely Schaffer

    I am so terribly sorry for your loss. Your son was clearly a beacon of light who in a very short period of time touched many lives. There is no doubt that he will never be forgotten and always be loved by his family and those who knew him. His memory will live forever.

  • The Masaniai Family

    May God wrap his loving arms around your family at this truly difficult time. Keeping your family lifted in prayers of peace, strength, love and comfort in the days ahead . God Bless you

  • Rose Lee

    I'm truly sorry to hear of your loss. As a mother, I can't imagine how devastating this must be for you and your entire family. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.

  • Kay Jacobson

    My deepest sympathies to you. As my firstborn died at 13 months I have an understanding of the depth of your grief. Let me say you will never forget but the pain will not always be so fresh and overwhelming. I pray that God will provide you comfort as you grieve this great loss. Allow yourself all the time you need, don't ever let anyone tell you that you should be "moving on." Each of you will grieve differently and for different lengths of time. Be patient with each other.

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