Sheila M. Fetner

May 16, 2019

On the morning of May 16, 2019 Sheila M. Fetner died at age 68 in Charlotte, NC. after a long struggle with congestive heart failure. 

Born in Eden, NC, she was the daughter of James and Doris Marlowe.  Sheila was a graduate of East Carolina University with a Master of Music in Vocal Performance and a Graduate Teaching Fellow in the School of Music.  She taught music in the Charlotte Mecklenburg School System and at UNC Wilmington early in her career.      

Sheila served as choir director of Central Steele Creek Presbyterian Church since 1998 and recently celebrated 20 + years as Human Resources Director of Childress Klein Property Management.   She was preceded in death by her father, James Marlowe, and her mother, Doris.

She is survived by a son, Brian Fetner, of Charlotte and a stepdaughter, Kim Kroker of Columbus, Ohio.  Her siblings are Doug Marlowe of Greenville, NC, Don Marlowe of Atlanta, and sister Ellen Orchard-Hays of Durham, NC.  

Sheila was the recipient of many awards for excellence in her area of Human Resources.  She was also a consummate musician as both vocalist and pianist and choral director.  Prior to entering church music, she taught private voice and piano lessons, directed musicals, as well as performed in opera and concert performances.  She also spent many years adjudicating choral competitions.

Sheila was a beautiful, vivacious person who loved both her professional and musical career. She loved to travel, especially on wine tasting trips with several of her friends.  Playing piano and directing choirs were her special joys including playing duets either for four hands on piano or piano and organ.

Sheila will be sorely missed by her many friends.

Donations in her memory can be made to Central Steele Creek Presbyterian Church where a Sheila Fetner scholarship has been created in the newly established Central Fine Arts Academy at Central.

A memorial service will be held at 1:00 PM on Wednesday, May 22, 2019 at Central Steele Creek Presbyterian Church, 9401 S. Tryon Street in Charlotte. 

Arrangements are in the care of Kenneth Poe Funeral & Cremation Service, 1321 Berkeley Ave., Charlotte, NC 28204; (704) 641-7606. Online condolences can be shared at



Share your memories & condolences


  • Cheri Greene

    Sheila was my cousin. Though I have not seen her in many years, I have many fond memories of overnight sleepovers and playing paper dolls. I know she will be missed. Condolences to her family and friends.

  • Shannon Peck (Preslar)

    I have been reflecting & remembering some of my great memories from high school since hearing of Ms. Fetner’s passing. And most of those fond memories & life lessons involved the time I spent in the music programs at Olympic. Sheila Fetner took her role very seriously, & always had a listening ear and advice for her students. I recall a conversation I had with her my senior year in which she gave me some very sound advice. She said, “No matter what you are doing, always strive for excellence; but don’t stress out trying for perfection”. I will remember these words, & the wonderful woman who said them.
    Many prayers for her family & friends as they travel this road of mourning for her. May all of you have some comfort in knowing how many lives were touched & changed by Sheila.

  • Randy Moss

    There are very few people in my life and certainly, in my 40-year teaching career that had the impact Sheila did. During our years together at Olympic, she was my mentor, my theatre partner, and my best friend. I loved working with her and cherished our time together in the classroom, in rehearsals and hanging out as friends. Not many people know this but one summer while we were at Olympic, she came by my house and said, "Randy, Dr. Moore has hired your art teacher!" I said, "yes I know we are getting a new art teacher". Sheila said, "No Randy, I think when you meet this art teacher, you guys will fall in love and be together forever! She's perfect for you!" Well, I don't know about forever, but Sheila got the perfect part right! Judith and I have been loving, traveling and celebrating being together for 30 years!
    Brain, I don't know if you remember The Sound of Music, but my Katie sure does! She still talks about holding your hand and you guys getting caught outside the curtain! I would love to catch up sometime and hear about your life since then.
    Thinking about Brain and the family. Sheila was a gift and we were all so lucky she was apart of our lives.

  • Christina Lomax

    I wish you all could read the Facebook posts circulating among those of us who had the gift of her teaching and support in the 80s at Olympic High. Unforgettable and indelible. She gave us so many gifts - care, attention, understanding, firm expectation, dedication, and a love of music so many of us were just discovering and will always carry with us. So very grateful for the time we spent with her. Love to you all, her family and friends. We were graced by her presence in our difficult teenage years and given a safe place to grow.

  • Dale Greene

    Although we had not seen each other in quite some time, I remember my cousin as a vivacious, cheerful young woman with amazing musical talent.
    My deepest sympathies to her family. I know she was a treasure who will be sorely missed.
    Dale Greene
    1st Cousin
    Blue Ridge, Georgia

  • Lillie Wyman

    I will miss her welcoming smile. Sheila's character was very genuine. She was always there to answer a question or make a suggestion. Words alone cannot describe how kind she was and how deeply she will missed here at CK. To the family I extend my condolences and may the sweet memories of Sheila strengthen you and bring comfort.

  • Chuck Allen

    My thoughts and prayers go out to Brian , Tom, and Sheila's friends and family. I have known Sheila for many years and one of the sweetest and most professional person I have known. She will be truly missed.

  • Marjorie Cutter

    I am in shock still of the hearing of this news. Sheila was kind and inclusive. She never made me feel left out of the crowd. I will greatly miss her.

  • Angela McIlwain

    Sheila well be surely messed the warn beautiful smile, kindness, concern person she was, genuine, helpful I can go on and on about this lady. My family send our condolence and prayer to your family at this time of need. We worked together at Childress Klein.

  • Shawn Ervin

    My prayers are with the family and friends.

Load More