Robert Thomas Dooley, Jr.

May 9, 2018

Robert Thomas Dooley, Jr., 83, died May 9, 2018 at his home in Sharon Towers. Tom was born on September 15, 1934 in Roanoke, Virginia, son of Robert and Helen Johnson Dooley. He was a graduate of VMI with a degree in Civil Engineering and received a Master’s Degree in Soils and Structures from Georgia Tech. A US Air Force veteran, Tom enjoyed a career in commercial construction with the company he founded, R.T. Dooley Construction Company. He was also a former NFL referee. “Tom was a man who lived to serve his Lord wherever he was.”

In addition to his wife, Nancy Wheeler Dooley, Tom is survived by a daughter, Nina Dooley McLean and her husband, Dickson of Wilmington, NC; sons, Robert Thomas Dooley III (Bob) and his wife, Anne and David Sanders Dooley and his wife, Susan, all of Charlotte; grandchildren, Nancy Lee and Rebecca McLean, Anne Howard, Catherine, Elizabeth, Helen Dooley, Caroline and Laura Dooley; and a sister, Phyllis Dooley Butts of Roanoke, Virginia.

A service to celebrate the life of Robert Thomas Dooley, Jr. will be held at 2:00 PM on Tuesday, May 15, 2018 at Christ Church,. The family will receive friends Monday evening from 5:30 until 7:30 at the home of Bob and Anne Dooley.

The family would like to express special thanks to Tom’s caregivers whom he loved dearly and the family is eternally grateful for all of their love.

Memorials may be sent to Christ Church, 1412 Providence Road, Charlotte, NC 28207 or to Sandy Ford Memorial Fund, 4029 Doves Roost Court, Charlotte, NC 28211.

Arrangements are in the care of Kenneth Poe Funeral & Cremation Service, 1321 Berkeley Ave., Charlotte, NC 28204; (704) 641-7606. Online condolences can be shared at

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  • Web Hatley

    Truly one remarkable man. He accomplished more in one lifetime than most could do in two. Tom and his company RT Dooley were customers of our at Queen City Lumber Co since the 1970's. Always a top notch company to deal with. That trait comes right from the top. We always considered them friends and well as customer's.
    My prayers are with the family at this difficult time. Sadness is there for your loss but we know that Tom now has a new body without the pain and infirmities. God bless.

    Web Hatley

  • Carol Lomax Fortenberry

    Mark and I send our condolences to the family. Tom was an amazing man, full of life and funny. We hope your memories will sustain you during this difficult time.
    Carol and Mark Fortenberry

  • Miriam Jones

    I am so sorry for your family's loss. Fond memories of Nancy and Tom when they lived on McAlway Road.. Our children, Kathy and Mark, were frequent playmates with Nina and the boys. My late husband, Harold, played "football" with Mark and the boys in the field behind out house (Randolph Junior High). I think I actually have a picture of them. Blessings, Miriam for the Jones family.

  • Evon Alexander

    The Hilton family offer our deepest condolences to you and your family in this time of need. We will forever keep you in our prayers! We love you (Evon and Nicole)

  • Bernie Kukar

    I was on Tom's crew for 3 years as a Back Judge. It was a most interesting 3 years. He was a joy to be with and a study for me to observe after my move to the Referee position as he taught me a great deal about how to be a referee in the NFL. Each week was an adventure with him and I could hardly wait to get to the game site the next week to see what was going to happen next. He taught me a number of things but most importantly to enjoy the experience and ALWAYS support your fellow crew members and not to take yourself to seriously in a pretty tough business. He was a joy to be around and I'm sure he will be missed by all.

    Condolences to the family and RIP my friend!

  • Bill Truitt

    The world has lost a GREAT man. Tom was an important mentor and valued trading partner for many years. Godspeed sir.